When you find out you have a serious illness everything changes dramatically. It takes all of your resources to not be overwhelmed with all the details of the illness, your fears of what might happen, the pain and sickness that accompanies the illness as well as the treatment, as well as the day to day issues that still make up your life.
I worked for many years with people in these difficult situations. I learned a great deal doing this work. Keeping your spirit alive is incredibly important and at times difficult. Read and listen to anything that helps you deal emotionally with what is going on. Go to a therapist if you feel stuck. Ask for what you need. If someone doesn't pick up on it, don't give up. Ask someone else.
I have some books and audio material that you might find helpful, interesting, challenging and maybe inspiring. Click on the Shop section of this website to find some of my material. If you have a group coping with some difficult situations and are looking for a speaker I can bring something to the group that they can use.
If all you can focus on is if you will die, I can put your mind at rest. You Will! Hopefully not for a long time but you can count on it. The challenge you need to focus on is staying alive spiritually, psychologically, and emotionally while you are dealing with this illness. I have worked with many people who did not survive their illnesses. I have also worked with many people who are still alive after being given a small amount of time left.In fact two books, Cancer and Hope - Charting a Survival Course (now called The Healing Journey) and I Will Live Today I cowrote with my friend Judy who was given 6 months to live over 40 years ago and she is still doing fine.
When we wrote our first book Judy was insistent that we not use the word dying. She said that dying was just living with a focus on the end result. If you think that way we're all "dying." Her point was you're living now. Some day you won't be but you are now. You might be very sick or injured but you are alive. You might need more help than you have ever needed physically and spiritually but you are alive. Be alive. If you're scared, you're scared. If you're depressed about it, you're depressed. Get help to deal with those issues. Make your life count even if you can hardly do anything. Let people love you. That is a loving thing to do.All of us will die eventually. Focus on being alive while you are alive. Make it count.
I have a variety of books and audio materials that you might find useful that are very inexpensive. They include topics such as exploring stress from a new angle and discussing strategies to staying stress free, coping with life threatening illnesses and injuries, dealing with the loss of a loved one. They can be found in the products section.
I am a professional speaker and have been doing it for a living for close to 40 years. I can speak on stress and grief and other areas. My talks are funny but also geared to give the participants something they can actually use when they leave. If you need a speaker I could be who you are looking for. Testimonials about my speaking can be found in other places on this website.